Ringing in the New Year with a fresh
awakening of aspirations and serious
determination to make the best of this
year is great. It’s always wonderful to
start the year off thinking positively
about plans we have for the year.
However, one trend I’m noticing is how
many women are claiming this year to
be the year they will find their man.
They make strong declarations like
“This is my year to get married. I’m
finding my man this year!”
Lots of women are blowing up Facebook
and Twitter with these powerful
proclamations. While it’s great to be
hopeful that this is your year to begin a
life in marriage, there’s one very
awakening of aspirations and serious
determination to make the best of this
year is great. It’s always wonderful to
start the year off thinking positively
about plans we have for the year.
However, one trend I’m noticing is how
many women are claiming this year to
be the year they will find their man.
They make strong declarations like
“This is my year to get married. I’m
finding my man this year!”
Lots of women are blowing up Facebook
and Twitter with these powerful
proclamations. While it’s great to be
hopeful that this is your year to begin a
life in marriage, there’s one very
LIKE THIS FEATURE? SHARE IT!
Monday January 17, 2011
| EEWMAGAZINE.COM |
| Copyright © 2011-2014 EEW Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without permission is prohibited. |
I couldn’t understand what she meant then, until
God spoke that same word to me years ago. I had
just come out of a really bad breakup that took a
toll on me in just about every possible way. I was
seeking God’s redemption. I knew that I had
drifted further away from him because of other
relationships I put before him.
One day, God spoke to me and said, “Kennisha,
print the scripture 1 Corinthians 7:34 and hang it
on your wall as a reminder of your obligation to
God spoke that same word to me years ago. I had
just come out of a really bad breakup that took a
toll on me in just about every possible way. I was
seeking God’s redemption. I knew that I had
drifted further away from him because of other
relationships I put before him.
One day, God spoke to me and said, “Kennisha,
print the scripture 1 Corinthians 7:34 and hang it
on your wall as a reminder of your obligation to
me today. It tells us that, “... a woman who is no longer married or has never been married should
be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit...”(NLT)”
I didn’t question the Lord. I simply printed it in big bold letters and taped it to my wall so that it
was the first thing I read when I woke up in the morning and the last thing I read before going to
bed. Many nights I cried reading it out loud because it was a hard pill to swallow. God was showing
me that he was purging me from all of the heartache and pain I endured, and filling me with his
love, affection, and tenderness. Until he sent that man to me, I needed to let God be my heart’s
affection and no longer suffer with the false affection from anyone else.
It was hard for me to understand this in the beginning because my heart was too focused on
discovering the love of a man. I wanted the affection, tenderness and intimacy from a love
relationship. I wanted to know that he loved me more than anything. But what I didn’t realize is
that when you put anything before the Lord, you’re practically worshipping it as a god before him
and scripture clearly tells us not to put anything before him. (Exodus 20:3) When we put men
before God, that relationship will crash right in our faces each time. That’s why I believe it’s
important that we learn to wait on the Lord and not be so quick to awaken love before its timing.
As a Christian woman, it’s important for you understand what your responsibility is today. Being a
single woman is not a curse. It’s not a painful agonizing nightmare you’re trying to awaken from.
Instead, being single is a blessing. It is a gift. “A gift? What do you mean?” you may ask. The truth
is, right now you have the opportunity to allow God to do incredible work through you in your
singleness. You can devote much of your time, affection and heart to serving him. Right where you
are, God desires for you to know him fully, while your attention is not completely divided. God
desires for you to want intimacy with him.
Here are a few tips on how to love God first:
1. Delight in the Lord. The second half of Psalm 37:4 promises that he will give us the desires
of our hearts, but only after we have delighted in him. To truly delight in the Lord means to love,
embrace and find fulfillment in him.
2. Spend less time thinking about a man and more time thinking about the Lord.
When you constantly flood your mind with your current single status, it can eat away at you. Don’t
allow constant thoughts about your singleness to discourage you. Instead, focus on the Lord and
be thankful that God does have a plan for your life.
3. Get a great devotional for single women. This will help feed your spirit while you wait.
In the same way we feed our bodies every day, we need to feed our spirit-man with the word of
God. This will help you stay focused on your love for the Lord.
4. Walk in your purpose now. You don’t have to be married in order for God to use you right
where you are. Seek him about your purpose as a single woman and then move forward in that.
And, if you aren’t sure yet, seek God about it. It may also help to get involved in a single’s ministry
or serve in an area at your local church or community outreach. This will keep you busy!
I encourage you to really fall in love with God before you fall in love with any other man. There’s
no other love that will compare. His love is unconditional and will never fail. It’s one love that is
sure to never leave you heartbroken. When he does send that man your way, you will be so full of
God’s love that he’ll immediately recognize it, which in turn will make your relationship that much
sweeter.
be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit...”(NLT)”
I didn’t question the Lord. I simply printed it in big bold letters and taped it to my wall so that it
was the first thing I read when I woke up in the morning and the last thing I read before going to
bed. Many nights I cried reading it out loud because it was a hard pill to swallow. God was showing
me that he was purging me from all of the heartache and pain I endured, and filling me with his
love, affection, and tenderness. Until he sent that man to me, I needed to let God be my heart’s
affection and no longer suffer with the false affection from anyone else.
It was hard for me to understand this in the beginning because my heart was too focused on
discovering the love of a man. I wanted the affection, tenderness and intimacy from a love
relationship. I wanted to know that he loved me more than anything. But what I didn’t realize is
that when you put anything before the Lord, you’re practically worshipping it as a god before him
and scripture clearly tells us not to put anything before him. (Exodus 20:3) When we put men
before God, that relationship will crash right in our faces each time. That’s why I believe it’s
important that we learn to wait on the Lord and not be so quick to awaken love before its timing.
As a Christian woman, it’s important for you understand what your responsibility is today. Being a
single woman is not a curse. It’s not a painful agonizing nightmare you’re trying to awaken from.
Instead, being single is a blessing. It is a gift. “A gift? What do you mean?” you may ask. The truth
is, right now you have the opportunity to allow God to do incredible work through you in your
singleness. You can devote much of your time, affection and heart to serving him. Right where you
are, God desires for you to know him fully, while your attention is not completely divided. God
desires for you to want intimacy with him.
Here are a few tips on how to love God first:
1. Delight in the Lord. The second half of Psalm 37:4 promises that he will give us the desires
of our hearts, but only after we have delighted in him. To truly delight in the Lord means to love,
embrace and find fulfillment in him.
2. Spend less time thinking about a man and more time thinking about the Lord.
When you constantly flood your mind with your current single status, it can eat away at you. Don’t
allow constant thoughts about your singleness to discourage you. Instead, focus on the Lord and
be thankful that God does have a plan for your life.
3. Get a great devotional for single women. This will help feed your spirit while you wait.
In the same way we feed our bodies every day, we need to feed our spirit-man with the word of
God. This will help you stay focused on your love for the Lord.
4. Walk in your purpose now. You don’t have to be married in order for God to use you right
where you are. Seek him about your purpose as a single woman and then move forward in that.
And, if you aren’t sure yet, seek God about it. It may also help to get involved in a single’s ministry
or serve in an area at your local church or community outreach. This will keep you busy!
I encourage you to really fall in love with God before you fall in love with any other man. There’s
no other love that will compare. His love is unconditional and will never fail. It’s one love that is
sure to never leave you heartbroken. When he does send that man your way, you will be so full of
God’s love that he’ll immediately recognize it, which in turn will make your relationship that much
sweeter.
important message that I’m not finding attached to the trendy topic. And it’s one that I believe is
crucial for single women--the importance of really loving and knowing God first before you get
married.
Years ago, someone spoke something very profound into my life about relationships and marriage.
She simply said, “Before you get into a relationship with a man, you need to establish and build
your relationship with God.”
“Establish a relationship with God first?”
crucial for single women--the importance of really loving and knowing God first before you get
married.
Years ago, someone spoke something very profound into my life about relationships and marriage.
She simply said, “Before you get into a relationship with a man, you need to establish and build
your relationship with God.”
“Establish a relationship with God first?”
ABOUT THE WRITER
Kennisha Hill is the author of the Christian Fiction
Novel, Awakened, a Teen Mentor, Literary Coach and
a freelance magazine writer. She lives in Dallas,
Texas and is happily married with two children. Learn
Facebook page at Facebook.com/ kennisha.hill.
Email Kennisha:
khill@eewmagazine.com
Connect on Facebook
Facebook.com
Kennisha Hill is the author of the Christian Fiction
Novel, Awakened, a Teen Mentor, Literary Coach and
a freelance magazine writer. She lives in Dallas,
Texas and is happily married with two children. Learn
Facebook page at Facebook.com/ kennisha.hill.
Email Kennisha:
khill@eewmagazine.com
Connect on Facebook
Facebook.com
| ADVERTISEMENT |
| ADVERTISEMENT |
powerful words of encouragement.
"In Love With You" by Dianna Hobbs
 | |  | |  | |  | |  | |  |
